Closure

Who is responsible when someone did something to you that you hated? While it might seem that the initiator being the baddie, this isn't always true for people living with different understandings. So how do you hate a person for not knowing what you like or dislike?

Cartoons do make a lot of sense at times. Remember the scene in Chicken Little where Abby Mallard told Chicken Little about having closure with his dad? When both party aren't communicating well enough, it would only spell misunderstanding. If you're never going to be honest about your feelings, then nobody will understand you. I really do think that we need to be more honest about how we feel in building a good relationship with anyone that we treasure.

Working in a global environment reminded me that there are many people in the world. We are all different people, with different names, background, and culture. So how do we work together as a team? It really is difficult and sometimes offensive when you don't understand a certain people's action. For example, a "thumbs up" in a country (i've forgotten where but its true) means the opposite to "excellent" in our terms. It is important for both of us to understand each other's cultures and habit, so that you might not get offended. From there on, we mutually develop an understanding to respect our differences.

Sometimes I just don't understand why people prefer to hide their emotions so deep inside. While it means privacy to you... we must learn to express ourselves a little so that people will know you better, and learn how to respect and treat you better. Who can you blame when someone did things that hurt your feelings? How would've anyone know if you never expressed or made known you hate something.

While there are a few "gifted" people who are sensitive enough to know what you think by just looking at your actions, there are only a handful of people around you that is capable of doing that. Still, we are never born mind readers and humans, do change in time. So what might be accurate now might not be the same for good.

From a personal point of view, I find it very hard to grasp and somewhat annoying when a person has an issue with you but don't try to work it out. Rather, they expect you to realize what they dislike and the irony is, they try so hard to hide the fact that they DO hate it. I believe you can't hate people out of your own expectations. Its only fair to say that you're disappointed when someone failed your expectation, with prior knowledge that they knew what was expected from them.

Think of it... you want to be mysterious, yet you want people understand you. So which is the actual intention? Its really ironic... I felt like I'm like this too at times... but I realize sometimes to get things moving, you have to be honest yourself first to get the rest of the world moving. Only because everyone is afraid to get hurt, someone must be bold enough to make a move... who knows... the world will revolve in your favour...